I still think that moving someone's stuff around and trying to do things to manipulate them into certain actions (like moving out) is attempting to control and not really DBing.
I agree with May here. I do think there are circumstances that may warrant these actions but not in this case. She has pretty much moved out of the master bedroom and seems to be respectful towards Costanza in the process. His long term goal is recon so there no sense in burning any bridges. Strength comes in not begging, pleading and wishing her well (indifference).
Originally Posted by may22
Strength would be not giving a $hit and going about your own business and building your best possible life, which probably means you are too busy to waste your time packing someone else's stuff for them.)
This is why the recon rate is so low. LBS $uck at this part of it.
Originally Posted by may22
This board helped me tremendously with this. I'd say regardless of whether your desire is to stand or to D, learning to control your emotions and respond rationally is a big plus to DBing.
Learning to control your emotions will change your life more then anything else you can learn in the process. I am getting good at it but still a WIP.
