SSRI's and divorce - Wife doesn't love me anymore

[may22]

Thanks, BL. I'd missed that about her already moving out of the MBR.

I still think that moving someone's stuff around and trying to do things to manipulate them into certain actions (like moving out) is attempting to control and not really DBing. I also think it smacks of an emotional response and doesn't convey strength-- it feels more like a temper tantrum. (And WHY would you go to the trouble of packing up her stuff? Let her take care of her own $hit! Now if she's moved out and left things around that are getting in your way, absolutely makes sense. But to preemptively pack it up and put it in the garage -- to me, that conveys weakness, not strength. Strength would be not giving a $hit and going about your own business and building your best possible life, which probably means you are too busy to waste your time packing someone else's stuff for them.)

In my case, I will say I'm very glad I *didn't* give into the temptation to respond emotionally many, many times during the course of my situation. This board helped me tremendously with this. I'd say regardless of whether your desire is to stand or to D, learning to control your emotions and respond rationally is a big plus to DBing.