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Been married for three and a half years now and I couldn’t be happier. My new wife and my Ex actually knew each other back in the day and have been somewhat amicable so far. As far as the emotional baggage and doing the hard work on myself goes I would have to say that it is a continuous improvement process that really doesn’t have an ending. I have been to the darkest lows of my life during the early days of my situation with my ex but through the strength of my children and the support of my friends and family and my new wife I feel really good about where I am today. My perspective has shifted from the days when I was a regular here and I suspect that most people’s will over this amount of time. At first many people are floundering not knowing what direction to go and end up on a forum like this looking for some magical tactic to save their marriage when the truth is that nothing you can do will change anyone’s mind about what they are going to do, the only thing we can do is change ourselves and change for the better. One thing that has really stuck with me throughout all of the advice that is generously offered here is that you have been given a gift, a gift of time. Use it wisely.