I strongly suggest reaching into her purse and talking your balls back.
W:"Lets talk about nesting!" H:"Nothing to talk about. I decided, I will not be nesting. I also will not be moving out, I like it here." Do not show your emotions.
She will respond. Validate her feelings.
At some point, this is all about negotiations. She wants out, not you. She is free to move out. Do not attempt to control this. Set her free.
Hi Constanza,
In the thick of things, everything may seem complicated, but some things are not. You control you. If you realize that, the outcome is as simple as saying "No." Drop control fantasies, illusions that if you acquiesce, negotiate, guilt, manipulate, get her to change meds, etc. you can control her. Own you. Like wayfarer and LH, I'm curious if you will stand. If you do, consistent actions would be a strong "No" when she mentions you dating other people in January, and cutting contact with your XGF instead of leaving options open. Look forward to learning about you through your actions.
