1. You can certainly ask her to go to discernment counseling with zero expectations of her accepting. I would decline any other type of divorce counseling.
2. It’s definitely ok to be polite and ask her about her project. I just wouldn’t linger around long because you should be out living your life.
3. I wouldn’t ask her to leave because it’s not something you can enforce if she says no. Boundaries will definitely be needed.
4. I would refuse all one on one invites (doubt you’ll get any) and decline all extended family invites. Nothing you can do or show her will make her change her mind. As far as changes right now even if they are real will be seen as manipulative. Go back and read my first post to you.
5. Certainly alright to offer. I wouldn’t recommend making a habit of it.
6. So if you’re playing the long game don’t burn any bridges. When she’s home you go out until you separate. I can’t stress how I think nesting would be a terrible idea. My ex wanted to separate and nest and I told her I would rather divorce. Never regretted that decision for a second.
If you are playing the long game statistics say it takes minimum of 2 years for a WS to change their mind.
One of our popular posters has often posted that in his research he believes 90% of WS will eventually want to reconcile. Based on your posts of ex girlfriend’s and the need for affection my guess is you will not wait this out. Only time will tell.
