Thank you DnJ for your consistent replying on my thread. You always seem to give me the advice I'm seeking for.
Originally Posted by DnJ
H is making progress. No doubt about it. He may continue slowly along or he may backslide a bit. That’s near impossible to tell. Keep expectations really low. Hope is ok.D
There is the backslide I guess. Consistent behavior for two weeks in a row but seems to lose it this weekend again. He is still friendly but his reactions are strange.
Although he knew the kids still had holiday he went abroad again last Wednesday, exactly on the day we came back from our holiday. He did not go to his home country but to the place where his new work challenge will be until next Wednesday. He doesn't have to be there during the weekend and it is very close to where we live, he could have stayed a few more days in the area for them but he didn't. It's like he is scared to face them. On Friday he is leaving again for his current home country so will only be here 1 day to spend the day with them.
Instead of being an actual dad he sent a message to say they could buy new (very expensive) sport shirts and he would pay for it.
He immediately transferred the money over to S17.
They of course accepted the gift but this is no positive education, this is buying them things out of guilt and even trying to buy their love, and I really don't like that. They also see through this but they are still children and who can blame them for accepting this gift.
Or do I need to see this as an improvement, an action of which he thinks is the right thing to do?
I’m simply afraid he will break their harts again. He told them he would become the dad he used to be in the past but I have serious doubts about it.
