Legally separated, in our homes...Part 2

[SteveLW]

I am all for guidance, advice and path forward.
Right now it seems like I need to sit down with her, talk of where we are and whats happening. Then decide when to file for divorce, unless she throws a wrench in the fire and wants to reconcile, so we have ample time to get her health care looked into ( thats me ensuring she is covered properly without rushing into it). Shouldnt take long to find a health care plan.
Then talk about plan going forward, B Days and all Holidays are separate. The girls will understand.
Not very refined, this plan, but its a start to fine tune.

Mach, I'd prefer you skip the temp check and just go right to the discussion about B days and holidays. She will get the point and if she wants to R (unlikely so don't expect that) then you can go in that direction. Most of the time, WASs will always stick to their guns about not wanting to stay married when pressed. Which is one of the reasons it is advised against. When they want to R you will know. They will come to you. You won't need to initiate an R talk.

But you do seem determined to start an R talk. I think that's the whole reason you came back and gave an update. Your sitch so you get to decide.