Hi L2, That's a good list of positives you have going there. It says your actions are drawing him closer. Time is on your side here. Keep building on those good actions so he can become comfortable with that the good feelings now will now become the norm and will outweigh the bad times of the past. No words you say will ever have the power to do that.
... and its hard to at first see these positive steps without building expectations that his action mean what you want to hear now. But that is not usually the case. Think of your H as sitting on the fence still wonder which side is greener. Based on his mood, or his interactions with you, he will tend to sway to one side or the other, but that doesn't mean he's ready to get off the fence. So let your expectations go as to what you want to read or hear now that you are seeing baby steps. They are more like your H just sticking his big toe in the water to test if he really wants to get in.
When he's comfortable with which side of the fence he wants to be on, he will let you know. So don't initiate any R talks. Let him be the one that brings them up.
Keep watching for more of those baby step and accept them for what they are. A positive moment in the now. In of itself, it is not enough to mean anything yet, but when they are strung together that is when they gain the momentum that can turn things around in his mind. When that momentum is reached, he will let you know.
