I can't imagine anything she could do or say, no scenario in which I would want to forgive and reconvene the relationship.
Lee, uncouple what you said. Uncouple how you are looking at this.
“…no scenario in which I would want to forgive and reconvene the relationship.”
Forgive and reconvene are two separate things.
Fine, you do not want to reconvene.
This requires more explanation.
To offer legitimate forgiveness, I have to trust and believe what she says. If she came to me wanting forgiveness and reconciliation some time soon, this would only be because her affair has fallen apart and she wants right back in a comfortable situation with me, the sucker.
That is why I say that, as of right now, I will not forgive. I do not believe that forgiveness would be what she REALLY wants, it would only be empty, manipulative words.
Forgiveness requires repentance. She needs to truly regret. If, at some point in the future she really wants my forgiveness, she has it. She has it, really, even before she asks in the case of genuine contrition.
But that is not who she is right now. She may want forgiveness in the "I am sorry for what my actions have caused, however I am still glad I did this, and if I had to do it all over again, I would do it again." -- type of way.
