I agree with Steve above, but with that said, so many people (heck including myself) are so bad at validation that you can land yourself in hotter water attempting too. I agree with I believe it was LH who said try it with others before your wife. Steve’s response above is perfect, and yet could be twisted into sarcasm, or you could be accused of blowing off her feelings. Heck, I can see someone who really wants to ensure everything is your fault, say I didn’t feel that way, that’s how it was.
Yep it was me. What Steve said could be considered condescending depending on their relationship dynamic. I know Sandi wasn't a big fan of validating waywards.
KISS comes into play here. "I understand that's how you felt".
