Legally separated, in our homes...Part 2

[SteveLW]

I believe Mach40's daughters are 21 and 31 so there isn't any official custody agreement stating every other year birthday or split Christmas...etc., and his wife got her own place just a year and half ago so they don't have any typical rhythm from years of divorce which they can fall back to. Do I remember correctly that your daughters live with your W? That might further complicate things, giving his W the "home advantage" and having Mach wanting to keep involved.

It really is up to Mach and his daughters at this point to arrange some sort of split for the holidays if he wants to change the dynamic.

Thanks BL. Yes I think he really needs to change this dynamic. I know it scares him, and he thinks remaining part of her family's celebrations is safer and more comfortable for him, but this has to happen eventually, I'd rather see him be proactive and use this holiday season to start that process. It is hard for a wound to heal until you remove all of the debris from the wound.