SSRI's and divorce - Wife doesn't love me anymore

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The EA was after the D-bomb. I asked earlier, is it still considered cheating if it happens after the split is announced?

I didn't know that announcing a split ended a marriage. I thought it was filing for divorce and going through the divorce process.

Heck yes it is cheating until the marriage is no more.

Exactly. You're MARRIED! You can't just choose to say "I'm unhappy" one day and then go date other people for awhile and have it not be cheating.

Do not agree to a nesting arrangement.

I made this mistake. Do not nest. I can elaborate if you would like. Just ask.

As everyone else has said...do not nest.

I was actually considering confronting her with "look, this isn't working, I've been approached by an old friend/x-GF about seeing each other and I'm gonna go ahead with it, I just wanted to be honest and up front.

If you honestly want any hope the marriage will survive this is a terrible idea. At best manipulative to tell her, at worst perhaps a bit revealing to your real motives/issues. Why would your x-GF reach out? How would she know you & your W are having issues? Suspicious timing, no?

Look, it's a blow to the ego to have our W in an affair with another man...I know. You're maybe fearful she'll move on before you, maybe you have a desire for revenge...etc., but it's not a good path. Take time to step back and work on yourself and focus on your kids. They don't need both mommy and daddy running off into fantasy land right now.

You need to decide if you're standing for this MR or moving on first...

Take the focus off your W. Concentrate on you and the kids. GAL doing anything that doesn't involve your ex girlfriend and affection. Just breathe for awhile. Right now the ball is in your Ws court and it looks like she is making moves to dissolve the marriage. Decide what you want and why you want it and we can help you move forward...

Re-read the full posts Wayfarer and LH's made above in the thread.