Okay, so when I am invited to Thanksgiving, B Days, and Christmas etc, just be friendly.. The only other issue is when she asks to go to lunch or get coffee......Just saying, as it has and will happen.
"I appreciate the invite, however I have plans of my own. Thank you though!"
She she asks to go get lunch or coffee, you are busy. She may ask with what, just respond that you are busy and it is none of her business with what.
Mach40, what you have been doing hasn't worked. You obviously are struggling with it. So start changing your approach.
As far as the holidays, surely you both have put a child care plan in place? "I get Thanksgiving, you get the day after. I get Christmas Eve, you get Christmas morning and Christmas. I get NYE, you get NY's day." Next year we flip that. The next year back to this. Rinse repeat.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
