SSRI's and divorce - Wife doesn't love me anymore

[costanza]

Ok, so I see this is a really bad idea, can I have examples of how it’s a really bad idea? What happens exactly? I can understand that it makes an affair so much easier to accomplish.

Before I answer where do you plan on staying when you are not in the family home?

A friends spare room. He lives alone in a 4 bedroom house, also divorced 10 years ago.

But it would also give me the freedom to get my life back at the same time wouldn’t it?

What do you mean get your life back?

GAL, rest, meditate, focus on me and hobbies, start seeing people/get some affection. Is that a bad plan? Do I need to refrain from getting some affection?

If she refuses to leave the house, and I also stay, it’d be an incredibly toxic environment.

Why? She's home with the kids you are out GALing like a mad man. Your home with kids she can do whatever she wants. Most likely out with OM.

ok, but that sounds like a pretty crappy house to live in.

So the only way around it would be to go see lawyers and have it split legally.

Not necessarily.

This would place a massive financial burden before we have a chance to prepare properly while also reducing the quality of living on everyone, especially the children, wouldn’t it?

Anyway you look at it yours and the kids life's are going to be flipped upside down.

What don’t I see?

See above.[/quote]

She left her computer unlocked so I helped myself. Didn’t take long to find a chat with a work colleague. Saw the whole thing about, needing to be careful about crossing the line, the guy also has a GF, they decided to end it at least for now. I don’t believe it’s permanently over, sounds like they were really into each other.

You have no idea how predictable this is Costanza. I can tell you the ending if you would like me to.[/quote]
Ya, I can imagine. Either way, she's out there, nothing i can do about it.