But it would also give me the freedom to get my life back at the same time wouldn’t it?
Stop waiting to live your life, and go live your life (GAL). Report back on what you chose to do!
Originally Posted by constanzas
If she refuses to leave the house, and I also stay, it’d be an incredibly toxic environment.
”Refuses”—still??—costanza, your attempts to control her have failed. STOP! DB in the nutshell—take ownership of yourself and be the best person you can be, stand for the relationship you want, and let her be her and do her. It can work. Imagine how much more attractive that would make you than trying to tell her what to do and blaming your faults on her. Several reconciliations here. You have to be willing to make a change from the status quo. She shouldn’t have to refuse, because you shouldn’t be telling her what yo do. You should not be toxic. If she’s toxic to you, set boundaries that control and protect you. If she’s toxic to the kids document, report, and take custody.
