Before I can answer this I need to ask you a question:
Do you know for sure she is ready to work on the marriage? Last time I asked that you said you were still confused.
Im still confused, so I know your answer! Is there any harm in gauging her feeling towards going potentially in the future?
A) It doesn't matter. If and when the time comes whether you gauged it now or not will have no bearing on whether she goes or not.
B) Believe nothing she says......so even if she says "sure I'd be open to it" it is meaningless because you cannot believe a word she says. #1 rule of dealing with lying cheaters is to not believe what comes out of their mouths.
C) It is nearly impossible to ask a question like this without hopes and expectations. Which breaks the "drop expectations" principle.
It is all downside and no upside. Stop focusing on her and what she may or may not do.
Last edited by SteveLW; 11/02/2102:38 PM.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
