Costanza, your questions continue to be trying to figure out what to do to get a result. And I can tell you that if you continue to "act" just to get a desired result you'll continue to spin and do the wrong things. You GAL.... For you. You 180... For you. You work on detachment... For you. Until you get that she will feel watched and manipulated.
Thanks, this makes sense. Gotta admit, I'm still hoping for a hail Mary, I need to get over that. Seeing how things didn't work out with her EA, it's given me some hope that she might've realized things weren't soo bad at home.
Originally Posted by SteveLW
Do not agree to a nesting arrangement. You can ask her to leave but legally likely you cannot make her. As far as your agreement on the not dating. Sounds like more stealth trying to control her. I know you don't see that in you, but I wholeheartedly disagree with you on wayfarer. She has a great nose for this kind of thing.
This came from her though, perhaps she was just trying to go easy on me and shake me off her path with EA.
Originally Posted by SteveLW
As far as she's too busy with work to be able to go out.... Yeah lots of LBSs have fell for that one. Unless you know where she is 24/7, there is no way for you to know for sure. Again, why focus on what you cannot control??
I know and I understand, anyone can find time for a quicky pretty much anywhere. She still works from home 75% of the time, and when she's working late on-site she's one of the presenters on a Zoom call with hundreds of people, I have access to the feed btw, and I can confirm she is where she says she is. Of course there is also time for lunches and dinners, so yes, there are tonnes of opportunities. She also goes out at least one night a week, and stays out really late and drinks a lot. No doubt she's looking for a good time.
