1) Don't nest ("rotate the family home"). I know people who have. It's a horrible arrangement for the left-behind spouse. Find your backbone and say no before it's too late.
Can you shed some light please? How is nesting so bad? I'm still kinda new here. How does one say no exactly? I don't really see how I can expect any cooperation here? Shall I move out and give up the house? Shall I ask her to move out and buy her out? Isn't this what's best for the kids? The thought of uprooting them so fast seems so harsh.
You say no by refusing to move out until ordered to by court order! That means you are there all the time. No voluntary living elsewhere for 2 weeks, etc. We've seen a lot of LBSs that tried this and eventually tired of the arrangement. The WAS will milk it for all they can. We've seen posters that ended up doing this for years....and hated it!
Originally Posted by costanza
Originally Posted by CWarrior
2) "OUR stance from the start" -- How bizarre--YOU want to start dating and getting physical with other people starting in January?? Can you explain this desire of yours better??
I might've explained wrong, we both just said "let's not make this awkward by dating people while we're still sharing the same roof and bed. However, she changed her tune pretty fast with a coworker.
My guess was that this was your idea.....not hers. IE attempt to control.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
