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Huh?! If she's physically abusing your son, taking action would be a great 180.

I have been trying to step up to the plate on this. So far peace has held between them for three months

Yes, I can see controlling behavior (telling her what she should or should not do) ending in an argument. You control you. She controls her (as long as she isn't abusive). Good job!

Thanks, I was pleased with myself. She even didnt continue to go on about it as she usually would.

I wonder if you see the opposite of arguing and controlling her (aggressive behavior), as doing what she wants (passive behavior)? Obviously, not all McDonalds are the same or your wife and son wouldn't be disagreeing about which one to go to. WHOSE McDonalds did you go to in peace? This exchange isn't a big deal, but note favoring one over the other also isn't a big win for dealing with conflict or teaching your son how to deal with conflict. Happy Meal food for thought.

No I dont think I see it as opposite. The argument was over distance from the house. The one she wanted was closer. I think it was you who previously said about one of our discussions “It doesnt need to be a hill to die over”, that was what I thought about this issue. I even said to my son “We are going to A McDonalds regardless, it really doesnt need to be something we are going to have fight over”. We went to her choice, as a matter of record.