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scaredA,

Prep yourself for the possibility she was chatting w/OM. My ExW would while we were in the same room. So uncomfortable and awkward. I probably should've handled it more strongly.

She may well be. What can I do if she is?

You can't do anything to make her stop. What you can do is control the way you act in response to her behavior.

If you have to do absolutely everything for those kids while you are trying to figure out what to do here in this MR you're going to just have to do it. Your kids come first. They are not pawns. They are not puppies. They are not neutral observers in this this situation. They are just as in the middle of chaos as you are and you trying to pawn them off on a person who doesn't want to deal with them to prove a point is kind of cruel. So what if she's doing less?

^This, 100%. The kids are your #1 responsibility. You're the parent. Make sure they're cared for.

I understand that they both had bruises, although I saw the photos of hers.

Huh?! If she's physically abusing your son, taking action would be a great 180.

The physical violence between your W and S is extremely concerning. If it happens again you need to intervene and stop it.

Your W is physically abusive to you and your children, neglects your children, it addicted to social media, sleeps with other dudes and tells you about it and it is so bad you basically went a year without talking to her. What exactly are you trying to save?

You will discover a lot if you take the time to ponder this question SA

Indeed.