Because I'm still in the house and our children are living here with me.
That's a big positive for you. She's the one who moved out. You're in the house with the kids, and now grandbaby, so you stay involved in their lives day-to-day and have the presumption of "home" with the family. What are your S19 and S21 thoughts about all this? I have to imagine they've talked with you about it. Are they in touch with and visiting your W at the friends' place?
Originally Posted by Galaga
Don't really want to get lawyers involved as it will cost a fortune.
Understandable. You may need to if your W goes that route to make sure you're protected, but good you had an initial consult and know where you stand general.
Originally Posted by Galaga
Did offer her a settlement early on but it was ignored....no counter offer or acceptance. It was a desperate push by me but now I've backed off. I know I should continue but part of me says if she wants this she can do the hard work for it.
Based on the situation it sounds like you should not push it - you're in the home with the kids - and let her do any heavy lifting.
Originally Posted by Galaga
I will come out OK financially and she will have to start form scratch.
That must give you some relief. With the age of your kids custody and child support are likely not an issue. Not sure about your employment situations...what about spousal support? Assets?
Me:39 Ex-W:37 M:7 T: 9 S:6 D:3 BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20 OM1 affair ends: May '20 W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20 W files for D: Jul20 OM2 confirmed: 9/2020 Divorced: May '21
