Yep I agree you go dark it’s more of the same and your marriage probably won’t improve. I also know that while she is having an affair your marriage won’t improve. So the question becomes what do you want to do.
This is indeed the question. I am really not sure of the answer. I suppose I just keep plugging away, with my cut off date fixed for next year. I try to make myself a better person for my own and my kids benefit. I she wants to come along up to her, if not I now have my cut off date.
Along the way I plan to do this: 1) No more gifts 2) Give her physical and emotional space 3) Do not initiate comms, particularly R and A related 4) Try to be a good dad to my kids 5) Do not ask for family time, let her request it 6) Be polite and generous if she initiates comms 7) Stick to my boundaries 8) Do not be defensive or critical to her
Uuuuummm you don't try to be a good dad. You be a good dad.
