Scared known of this matters if she is having an affair. Keep making changes for yourself and the rest rest will work itself out. She’ll either end the affair and mourn the loss and come back to the marriage or she’ll continue to work towards a divorce. Unfortunately you have minimum to no control over what she’s chooses. You control you.
I get what you are saying, but surely there must be some intermediate steps before she fully commits to the marriage (if she ever does). MWD says all of the above are good signs in her LRT video. My DB coach also seems to think they are signs of turning towards, rather than away. I really dont know.
My real concern is that if I go dark again and stop family time and stop talking to her when she talks to me, that this is really more of the same that I have been doing for the last 18-24 months. I really get that in a situatin where the LBS thought everything was fine and then a DB was dropped, that they should stop conducting conversation and stay by themselves away from the WW. But what if this behaviour is just more of the same?
We literally have not had a family meal or day out for nearly two hours but years. We havent sat in the same room for the same amount of time. So I dont fully understand how I can DB by stopping family time again and keeping conversation to a minimum.
I not trying to be awkward or refusing to see your point of view. Im just having a hard time understanding what to do.
