1) I am not going to listen to her telling me how the sexual side of the affair was. I will change the subject or directly say that I do not wish to discuss this. 2) I am not going to listen to her tell me stories about the AP, pretending these are stories from a "good friend". I now know who the AP is and it is pretty obvious when she is telling these stories as I know what he does for a job. I will change the subject or directly say that I do not wish to discuss them 3) I will not listen to her bad mouthing my parents and brother (she does this all the time). I will change the subject or directly say that I do not wish to discuss them 4) If I find out she is still sleeping with the AP or another man, I will stop financially supporting her and request a separation where she needs to move out of the house. If she will not move out, I will move her stuff out.
I know these are probably quite weak, but I'm looking for some feedback from you guys.
I've also settled on a cut off date of 14th August 2022. This will be one year after she mentioned the affair. If the marriage is not reconciled by that time, I will file for divorce and move out with the kids. Additionally, I will start looking for another job, either back home or another overseas posting.
They are weak but at least a start. Changing the subject is weak. Make it clear you are not going to listen to it. If she continues leave the room.
