Why did he say you have the upper hand? My L encouraged me to act quick too. He said in his experience the better deals are usual right out of the gate. He said she may be feeling guilty and/or eager to move on and may be willing to give more, whereas the longer it drew out the more it gets into the dig in and fight over things mode. I didn't follow this advice; I wasn't ready emotionally. I faired alright under the law anyway, but looking back may have benefited from acting quicker.
Because I'm still in the house and our children are living here with me. Don't really want to get lawyers involved as it will cost a fortune. Did offer her a settlement early on but it was ignored....no counter offer or acceptance. It was a desperate push by me but now I've backed off. I know I should continue but part of me says if she wants this she can do the hard work for it.
I will come out OK financially and she will have to start form scratch.
