So Mach I think you need to think about self care here. If these talks are triggering to you then you need to cut it off after the kids business is taken care of.
If I were a betting man I would say you’re still trying to nice her back. Also if I were a betting man I would say you will end these kind of convos when a boyfriend pops up.
If the 31 years really means something to you then be friends with her with zero expectations. This kind of relationship is what is best for the kids.
