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I don't think you want her to stay with you because she feels trapped. In DB terms, set her free.

I completely agree with this.

The goal isn't the best possible outcome for you.

I completely disagree with this. She is lying to you and cheating on you and telling you she may want to break up your family and marriage. If it comes to a divorce it becomes a business negotiation, sometimes a contentious battle. She likely will not be looking out for your best interests, and you should do everything you can now to prep yourself for the best financial outcome you can. If she wants to divorce you and leave the country and is willing to give you all the money to do that, great. I've seen a lot of people on this forum recommend splitting off finances and protecting your assets. Could she potential empty out those accounts in Luxembourg? Start protecting yourself.

Ok pretty sh$t day today. I had an app that showed me when she and OM are online on Whatsapp. They were both online within a few minutes of each other at 3AM. Coincidence, I think not. I am sure they are still talking.

Sorry man. It [censored]. They're almost certainly still talking, and very likely still meeting up. She's in an active affair, and it's going to very hard to impossible to stop her. Act accordingly.

Tidied up the house, did the kids laundry, helped my youngest with his homework and went out with a few friends for a drink.

Getting up tomorrow for the gym. Really need to take the focus away from her, and put it on the kids and myself. Prying and snooping around is really dangerous and just messes with my head.

Great work on going out for drinks and hitting the gym. Start making both of those a regular thing. You'll start to feel better.