So all that to say, I feel I'd be abandoning her during a difficult period when she's already at the end of her rope by GALing and focusing on me. Unless i'm being thick and that's part of the point? Help her see how difficult and less fun it is doing it solo part-time?
Actually, the point of GAL and focusing on you is much simpler. She has said she wants less of you. So you give that to her.
DBing is counter-intuitive. It goes against our instincts as hunter-gatherers. What I can assure you is that the pursuit you engage in when you meet someone will not work when it comes to your walkaway spouse. If it did this forum wouldn't exist.
However, your logic doesn't make sense when you look at it from a 50k ft view:
=MR isn't going well. =Wife says she wants a D. =Husband feels like he is abandoning her by focusing on himself and GAL. =So he becomes super-husband/dad, always there, letting her go out and live a GGW, engage with OM lifestyle.
Who is abandoning whom?
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
