Unsure where we are going

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Clearly SA's situation is complicated by the laws of the country he is operating under. I think the answer is to balance him trying to control her vs. what he can legally do or not do. Clearly, if she decides she wants to leave the country, not allowing her access funds to do so breaks that balance. He can legally do it, but should he be doing it from a not trying to control her standpoint.

Finally, women in these kinds of societies find ways to escape them all the time. The longer he tries to use the law he is under to control her, the more likely it is she will find a way to try to escape to a more woman-friendly society.

See the post above, I don't believe I am controlling her in any way re: the laws of the country. Adultery is punishable by one year in jail and the deportation for non-Muslims. This is what I would be persuing if I was really trying to use the law to my own ends.

Great suggestion. Go around and meet people, make friends, and have fun without her. Do not be clingy. Do not be in "spy" mode, looking over your shoulder at her and listening into her conversations.

This is totally my plan. I like the "spy" mode bit, Im not even gonna look in her direction all afternoon