And I would let go of the antidepressant narrative. It is a red herring. I came here convinced my W's SSRI's were the cause of our issues. 4 year later she is still on them and our marriage is better than ever before.
That's great, I'm thrilled it worked out for you and I only hope I can manage the same. I'm sure you guys found a way to discuss and openly communicate through the antidepressants? That's where we failed, I saw her distancing early on and I panicked and got worse over time. Communication totally broke down, I became paranoid, read up more on antidepressants, and it only got exponentially worse. Speaking to friends with experience with them just snowballed.
My point is not all people and drugs are created the same. Like you say, every situation is different. One can have a terrible reaction to one and not another. Its just compatibility. There are lots of things someone can try before jumping on the SSRI bandwagon while filling their Dr's pockets with kickbacks.
