Unsure where we are going

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I'm with Wayfarer-- put your kids to bed on time and help them with their homework and be grateful you are getting all this fabulous 1-1 time with them while your W is off doing whatever. That CAN be GALing-- it doesn't all have to be going to the gym or out with friends. It could be snuggling with your children and really being present with them. For me, that was some of my most healing GAL-- spending really quality time with my kids where I totally closed off my head to worrying about my dumb H and his dumb A and focused wholly on the magic of being with my children.

Completely agree. Relish and take comfort in the time with your kids. When ExW was "working late" (and I knew it was really with OM1), I'd be with my kids at all snuggling together reading a book or watching a show and putting them to bed. It me made feel I still had my family (because I did) and everything would be ok (because it would be). It helped me, and more importantly was the right thing to do for them.

So a strange thing just happened and I wanted to get all of your opinion on it.

Im not sure it this manipulating or a reapair attempt. Like I said she has a large amount of friends and an active social life and hasnt invited me to anything for over 18 months.

Zero expectations. If you want to go then go and have fun. WS are kooks and make absolutely zero sense. Do not waste any mental energy trying to figure out what it means.

I agree w/LH. ExW asked me if I wanted to go on a family hike with the kids the last weekend we were together and I responded "I'd like nothing better". Probably saying that and doing it to show her how important our family was to me. A week or two later she moved out and moved in OM2 shortly afterwards. WS are kooks, and you can't assume from some little thing she says or some little invite it means she wants to R. Zero expectations, indeed! Easier said that done.

What I also see is you putting huge significance on one BBQ, and a pair of slippers.

It's obvious you're seeking out hope - don't get a high on everything little "sign" just to go low when those dont' work out.