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[SteveLW]

I also wanted to comment on the nice things you keep doing for WW. A lot of men do a lot of things for a payoff. And they think the "nice" things they do will win them points, favor or my favorite of all that they are then entitled to reciprocal action. Doing things for a payoff, isn't nice. Doing things for a payoff with a WW will get you know where but hurt or angry or both. Doing nice things with expectations or doing literally anything with expectations of anyone but especially a WW will set you both up for failure every single time. And once you're there then you have to start asking yourself who is causing you more strife, WW or you? That's not a place to be if you're still emotionally fragile. That will turn inward and get ugly, it will be become bitterness, and you'll never get to move on in either direction.

Wayfarer's post is awesome. Especially this part. Money here. Most LBHs that come here are suffering from some form of Nice Guy Syndrome. Look it up. It is a horrible way to live and to interact with another human-being. The book No More Mr. Nice Guy can be life changing. Look it up.

Stonewalling is a classic Nice Guy tactic. "I did nice thing A, but I didn't get B in return. So I will stonewall!" It didn't click to me that you were potentially suffering from NGS until way's paragraph above.