So scared I have the value of hindsight. If I could do it over again I would have divorced my ex the minute I found her texting my neighbor. Just something I would never tolerate again. You absolutely can’t make this better with another party involved. So you can go along playing happy family but it will be excruciatingly painful when you don’t get the outcome you desire.
Look I know you feel horrible about how you acted. We all have been there. You have to give yourself a break and understand you did the best you could with the tools you had at the time. The greatest teacher is learning from your mistakes.
Your DB coach isn’t wrong. I just don’t think they take into account that a LBS has a difficult time controlling their emotions and having lofty expectations. If you have trouble with either it usually makes your situation worse and heights the pain. I am more in favor of time and space because that’s the only thing IMO that works long-term.
