On Saturday I was really annoyed, so I went out for a few hours. When I came back I went and lay on the bed. The wife come in later and asked was I ok. I said "Not really", She asked "Why" and I just said "The current situation. She came into the room and closed the door and she started a relationship talk.
Without all the ins and out, she basically repeated what she had said before. I was stonewalling her, she felt lonely, she sought out a married man, she would have went for a single man if she really wanted to cheat, the sex was amazing, no regrets, she wouldn't really call it an affair as she didn't love him, wished she had started having fun sooner.
However she also said the following, I really appreciate your efforts for the last few months, I have been observing them, I can see you are trying really hard, two months ago I had my divorce plan all finalised, now I am really confused, she said she knows I'm paying a lot of money for IC and she appreciated that I am doing it.
She also said she wanted to work on the marriage, but that I should put the affair out of my mind as every time I talk about it she goes back to the place of a few months ago where she was sure she was leaving.
I repeated that I wanted to work on the marriage, but that a third party cannot be involved for this process to work
She seems to be all over the place. I'm not sure if she is manipulating or genuinely is confused on what to do.
She agreed that the conversation was calm and respectful where it would have previously quickly turned into an argument.
She left the room after about 1 hour and half and we left the next morning for a staycation.
