2nd text: had I gone ahead and made the vet appointment she had told me she would make? I hadn't so, didn't respond.
Remember, DB’ing isn’t about being cold or distant—see Sandi’s rules. More “How would you treat a barrista?” This was a question, not an information al text, so i would answer. It’s okay to delay a bit as you’re busy GAL’ing, of course!
Originally Posted by Magnhold
I use all 3 so told her she had made her decision to move out, so no. She was visibly upset, and I realised I WAS being an arse.
Pain and anger can be hard to control. Good job noticing that wasn’t an attractive behavior and/or who you want to be as a person.
Originally Posted by Magnhold
On another note, my previous long term partner (going back over 20 years here) has been in contact recently. She is going through her own bad break up now, too. We chatted for over 3 hours last weekend. It's good to be able to reconnect, and we ended up talking about about her & I. She told me she has always regretted leaving me. I must admit, it felt good to hear that, albeit 20 years later!
Tread lightly. If you dive in, the bandaid of reconnecting with someone will temporarily mask the pain you’re feeling, but soon enough you’ll find it’s still there and you’ve reduced your R chances. Most relationships don’t work our, especially rebounds. This probably makes more sense to pursue when you’re certain it’s over for a period of time. Then, it may help you move on, as an extra wedge to reconciling.
