Did you grow up wishing you could.. have to endure mom or dad having different men and women shuttle in and out of your lives?
I think this speaks more to what DnJ said--LBS (adults) having trouble adapting. I doubt most kids have dreams or wishes one way or another about stepparents, beyond what they get from Disney films or fairy tales.
I've met many people who have wonderful stepparents. There are people on this forum who sound like wonderful stepparents. The woman I'm dating has a single step-parent on both sides. She describes her biodad as accomplished but busy, and her stepdad as less accomplished but with more time for her. Her biological parents have passed away but her stepparents remain. She feels she has a richer support network and range of experiences due to having stepparents. I also know a guy with four sets of stepparents! He stays in contact with all of them. Not all stepfamilies click. It can be a good or bad experience.
