Yes, it is strange how quickly the drag and drop happens. How suddenly this is now the norm. To be sure, a blessing in disguise.
Kids are far more aware and accepting than we give them credit for. The kids of a good friend of mine were explaining their week. What they did in school. And the bedrooms they have at their two homes.
Switch over had just happened, and it was perfectly normal for them. My friend, still rather freshly minted into this divorce thing, was the one having difficulties. The kids were not.
They proudly and openly talked about how at Dad’s they have a bedroom they shared. Two girls, two years apart. And at Mom’s they have separate bedrooms. It was interesting that there was no comparing by them. It is us who compare.
The kids perspective is different. They are wanted at both places. Both bedrooms are their’s. Both are their safe places. Both are home.
I get how that hurts. I get how I wanted my kids to resent their Mom and what she did. Acceptance and forgiveness are incredible gifts for one’s self. The path and effort to find them is very much worth it. Kids are better than us in this aspect, especially if their loving parent(s) is gently guiding them.
Originally Posted by BL42
I overheard S6 bragging to some of the other kids at their practice "hey guys my dad plays soccer, like real soccer" which made me proud to hear him say
You are Dad!
In son’s eyes, at his age, there is nothing you cannot do. You are all powerful and all knowing. You are Dad!
Be his rock. Always. Never let him down. You keep yourself walking in the light, with honour, and you both will be perfectly fine. Even when he realizes it’s just rec league soccer.
If your son and daughter feel at home at both houses and within both families, you are most blessed.
Regardless of the pet name that was written upon son’s homework, Dad’s is written within his heart.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
