So, the next day my wife came into the room I was sleeping and started going on about how she didn't cheat or betray me and that it was all my fault (pretty standard behaviour I believe to put the guilt from her onto me). I told her I was devastated and broken, and that my goal was to repair our family unit. I reiterated that this could not be done if the affair was still ongoing.
She then told me it meant nothing and was just sex and if it makes me feel better, she didn't love him. I know this is all crap from what I have seen. She was asking him to go on holidays with her, although she never said "I love you" in any of the messages and neither did he. She told me the sex was amazing and he made her feel very delicate. I didn't get angry or ask for more info, I just kept repeating that my goal is to repair our family unit, but this cannot happen if an affair is ongoing. Anyway, she left the room and sat in her bedroom.
We were supposed to be going to a sports event that night with the children. After lunch the kids were arguing and she snapped and said she wasn't going and that I should take them. I raised my voice a little, but wasn't rude/critical and said "You have arranged this, I will not be taking them". She went to her room and closed the door.
When it got closer to the event time, I apologies to my oldest son that we were not going, got in the car and drive to a coffee shop. When I was having my coffee, she phoned and asked is my oldest son with me. I replied "No". She then asked me to come home and take him to the sports event. I told her my son didn’t want to go any more and as she had earlier told us we were not going that I wouldn’t be coming home. Five minutes later she called again, said she had my son with her and he wanted to go. I agreed to come home and we all went to the event. During the event she asked for a family photo (currently this just means her and the kids), so I stood to the side. However, she called me over and put her arm around my waist while the photo was being taken. I’m not sure what to make or that, if anything. Third post to follow
