This is why I advise having a coffee date sooner rather than later. Weeds out the looky loos or scammers who have no intention of meeting, gives you a chance to find out early if there’s any attraction, and hopefully gets your foot in the door before they have a chance to get involved with someone else.
That said - it’s just a part of OLD. People are often talking to several matches at once, and then after one good date may decide to pursue that person and let go of the others. Or some, especially if they sound too good to be true, may be a fraud in some way. I still think the odds are better in OLD if you’re over 40 than your odds if you go to a club or a party.
