Been awhile since my last update. I think in these circumstances, that’s probably a good thing. My life has been relatively drama-free since my break up with TDH in May. My kids are enjoying high school, work is going well, I’ve found an exercise program I LOVE and I’m playing pool again. My sister and my BIL are leaving town for a week so I get to be by myself tomorrow and most of Thursday. I’m looking forward to it.
After a few months of being “meh” about dating, I have a meet up planned for this weekend that I’m cautiously optimistic about. I’ve been monitoring my dating apps but haven’t swiped right on anyone for at least a couple of months. A week ago Sunday I saw a like from someone on Tinder who is local, attractive and who said some things in his profile that resonated with me. I swiped right and a couple hours later he sent me a message to say hello. We chatted for a while. He told me a bit about his relationship history. Married for almost 20 years and then divorced from his wife (in 2010) who moved in with her affair (sound familiar?). He waited a couple years to date because he didn’t want his previous relationship to affect his next one. He then had a three year relationship. They broke up and he waited another year before he got into second relationship that lasted another three years. Now he is single again and giving it another try.
His age wasn’t on Tinder but by my calculations, he’s probably within a couple years of me. He loves to travel, is debt free, owns his home (his tenants were making him Thanksgiving dinner so he is a good landlord) and has two grown daughters who he is close with. He even told me that he recently had a text from his ex wife asking him out on a date. He was both horrified and vindicated at the same time…lol. He said one of his daughters was with him when the text came in and she told him she would kill him if he agreed. He works shift work and says he loves his job. I know that he works for the ferries and is either a Captain or close to it because the first time we talked, he had to end out conversation so he could take the ferry off autopilot and dock it. His texts are in complete sentences, he uses punctuation and his spelling is great. We may just be kindred spirits…lol. Anyway…long story short, he is off this weekend and asked me if I would like to go for a walk with him on the waterfront. Fingers crossed we like each other. It would be nice to not have to keep going on first dates for a while and to have someone local to spend time with.
Still regularly chatting with Vic on Messenger. He’s become a good friend. I still wonder “what if” but have stopped suggesting we meet up. He knows where to find me and honestly, the guy doesn’t seem like he would have time to date anyone anyway. We did recently talk about dating in general. He hasn’t done the online thing because he says he is too shy. I do not remember him being shy at all but that’s his story and he’s sticking to it. He also seems to believe that fate may just deposit someone at his door and mine too apparently. I’ve been watching my door and no one shows up there except people looking for donations so I’m going to continue to be a bit more proactive than that…lol.
So that’s the latest in DV Land. XH and I continue to coparent pretty well. We have pleasant interactions on the odd occasion we find ourselves in the same space. True detachment is a beautiful thing!! (((HUGS)))
