Hoping things are getting better

[detachA]

I think it is too early in the game to tell.

Yes, Im not sure, but I can see some signs of at least softening

You control you and your actions. If you don't want to backslide then don't backslide.

Easier said than done. I'm worried for two reasons:
1) Loosing myself in a moment of anger
2) Becoming complacent and forgetting to apply the lessons I have learnt (This is what happened the previous time and because things improved so fast and everything went back as it was. I really want to be slow and steady.

I am also finding it really difficult to detach and not talk about our relationship.
Why? Anxiety and fear?

Mostly longing contact with my wife. I am really trying hard not to initiate any conversation with here, or appear to be hanging around wanting to talk to her. For example I am upstairs writing this in the study with the door closed. The kids are downstairs. I have just heard my wife walk downstairs and I feel the urge to go downstairs and see if she is staying downstairs or going out. If she is going up, is she all dressed up or just going to the shops. I struggle to control this urge, even though I know it makes me appear needy and clingy.

Be patient. One way or another you will eventually find out where she stands. Remember that Rome wasn't built in a day.

Thanks, I really appreciate your advice. I need to work on my patience!