However, it made me think, once again, my own marriage really wasn't that bad, yet here I am with the very real prospect of divorce. Incomparable situation, I know, but I still think that W (STBXW?) gave up on something rather than trying to work things out. I have changed, I have learned, I have grown. It's such a waste that she didn't want to stick around to see that.
I know exactly what you mean and often have the same feelings when I come across the couples who I know have had much worse situations in their relationship than ExW & I ever had (though that's my perception, obviously not hers at this point) and wonder "if they could work through it why couldn't we?"...especially with the young children involved. However, I have to remind myself there's not much use in that type of thinking because ExW & I are where we are regardless, and it's nothing to do with the other couples.
Me:39 Ex-W:37 M:7 T: 9 S:6 D:3 BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20 OM1 affair ends: May '20 W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20 W files for D: Jul20 OM2 confirmed: 9/2020 Divorced: May '21
