Okay, aiming my nerf gun at you. She chose to be single on her birthday. -Pew- -Pew- -Pew-
Ha! That made me laugh. Brilliant. And fair enough.
Originally Posted by BL42
Eh. You shouldn't be reaching out. It slows your detachment and gives her some relief from her actions...easing her into the situation and pain of losing the relationship.
Originally Posted by BL42
She is your W who left you and break up your marriage. You should not be providing comfort to ease her burden.
Yes. I see that. Thanks for giving me a shake. I think I'm trying to learn the difference between keeping the way home smoothly paved (or however that goes) and showing her what's she missing by leaving the marriage.
Originally Posted by BL42
Hopefully she's stopped just "swinging by" to chat?
Yes, she has. Apart from her stopping me on the corridor to give me an update on her mother on Monday, nothing. That "nothing" does make it easier.
Originally Posted by Ready2Change
Someone: "Where is your wife?"
Sound advice given in your post.
Thank you to all for posting. I am feeling a lot stronger today. My IC was once again wonderful which keeps me on track.
A very dear friend got married a couple of years ago. She now lives in another country and a big group of the tribe all went over for the wedding. She set up a Whatsapp group tonight to tell her that her husband has been an utter twat to her and she's now divorcing. She sent us disturbing videos of his behaviour and utterly despicable comments that her husband had made to her.
I felt desperately sorry for her situation, and completely understand why she's divorcing him. However, it made me think, once again, my own marriage really wasn't that bad, yet here I am with the very real prospect of divorce. Incomparable situation, I know, but I still think that W (STBXW?) gave up on something rather than trying to work things out. I have changed, I have learned, I have grown. It's such a waste that she didn't want to stick around to see that.
