yeah it's totally true that he may not know. As Dawn pointed out, I am wildly speculating from my vantage point and it's not helping anyone.
It's all good. The term red flag is so miss over used anyways. We are all middle age people with past relationships and traumas.
Time to put your ex in the rear view mirror and get ready to Bumble! I can't stress to you how may intelligent, attractive women are in your area that are looking for a in shape, non-addict, non-mental health dude. Like shooting fish in a barrel. lol
funny bumble story. it's the app i test drove for a month before deciding OLD wasn't my bag, but when I first started on there I happened to be talking to my ex roommate from my early 20s, who is one of my oldest and dearest friends. she's a lot different from me and a true child of the 70s and a free spirit. love her to bits, so her response when I explained that it's an app where the women make the first move REALLY surprised me:
"I dunno, B ... are you SURE you want to be with a guy who wants the woman to make the first move? That really says something about a guy."
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"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
yeah it's totally true that he may not know. As Dawn pointed out, I am wildly speculating from my vantage point and it's not helping anyone.
It's all good. The term red flag is so miss over used anyways. We are all middle age people with past relationships and traumas.
Time to put your ex in the rear view mirror and get ready to Bumble! I can't stress to you how may intelligent, attractive women are in your area that are looking for a in shape, non-addict, non-mental health dude. Like shooting fish in a barrel. lol
I don't know if the stars are aligned or if Mercury is in retrograde or what, but this is like the 3rd time today I have seen LH post something that I agree with. LOL I agree that the term red flag can me misused and overused. And, sometimes, as we have all seen on these boards, what some deem a red flag others say is only a yellow, so you have to see them how you see them, regardless of how others interpret them. For once, I also agree with his assessment that you need to just put your ex behind you and get ready to meet some ladies.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
funny bumble story. it's the app i test drove for a month before deciding OLD wasn't my bag, but when I first started on there I happened to be talking to my ex roommate from my early 20s, who is one of my oldest and dearest friends. she's a lot different from me and a true child of the 70s and a free spirit. love her to bits, so her response when I explained that it's an app where the women make the first move REALLY surprised me:
"I dunno, B ... are you SURE you want to be with a guy who wants the woman to make the first move? That really says something about a guy."
Did you explain to her that Bumble is set up to keep BF protected from the unwanted D-pick out of no where?
I would imagine that there might be a higher percentage of beta males on Bumble - but that being said, plenty of alpha males seem to go there too, because it's such a frustrating thing for so many men on most sites where men outnumber women and men get a lot fewer responses than women do. At least on Bumble if a woman contacts them they can assume she has a baseline level of interest.
Truthfully it’s only frustrating for a man if you have nothing to offer and are trying to date out of your league. Also since 95% of males are beta males myself included yeah you’re gonna see a high amount of betas on any site.
I respect butterfly's friend's preference for dating men who prefer Tinder over dating men who prefer Bumble.
On Tinder-style apps, for men maybe 33-67% of your messages go into the void, and you have to send more frequent messages to stay on top of womens' inboxes since many men are messaging them.
On Bumble-style apps, for men nearly 100% of your messages get replies and you don't have to send reminders. It's time-efficiency and the in-app depth of conversations that makes me prefer Bumble.
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