Yeh I'd like to do the real life thing for sure too. I'm just struggling to think of opportunities where I would meet women naturally. It seems to be a huge creep factor approaching women in gyms and grocery stores and I definitely don't want to give off that vibe. One of the things I need to do is put myself out there more - not just for dates but to talk and be conversational with random people. I've shut myself in a lot, and the pandemic didn't help.
I'm a pretty outgoing person for an introvert and will chat with almost anyone.
One thing that used to work for me was to grumble about my son living with me "because his mother was a much better cook". Established the bonafides as a single guy in a completely non-threatening way I thought and opened up a conversation. More than once I had sympathetic comments back about enjoying the weekend when the kids are with their dad etc. A couple of times it opened up the opportunity to ask for a date and once it even got a start on a relationship which unfortunately didn't work out.
If it's at pickle-ball, wherever, that sort of approach - or whatever works for you - can be a friendly opening point.
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