Well done with not answering H until you are ready. Especially when it’s in writing.
It looks like most assets are divided and agreed 50/50. Just custody and then the calculated child support to agree upon.
Are you ok with the default week/week custody? I’m inquiring about you, not kids yet.
Now, are the kids ok with week/week custody? From what you’ve said it looks like there is a resistance to this from them.
This is the part of divorce that most affects the kids and yet they get little “legal” say in how it all goes down. Of course, this is a difficult problem to resolve and the laws and courts do the best they can in the interest of the wellbeing of the children.
As long as they’re safe and provided for is the needed criteria for a default legal agreement. If neither party wishes to yield, or has cause to be removed, there is not much one can forceable do.
Once you’ve spoken to an expert you’ll know what is possible going forward. And you’ll know your position.
There is always a possible of negotiating with H. Right now he is flailing. Let him settle a bit. Keep listening and see what he is after.
D
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
