Yeh I'd like to do the real life thing for sure too. I'm just struggling to think of opportunities where I would meet women naturally. It seems to be a huge creep factor approaching women in gyms and grocery stores and I definitely don't want to give off that vibe. One of the things I need to do is put myself out there more - not just for dates but to talk and be conversational with random people. I've shut myself in a lot, and the pandemic didn't help.
I understand the creep factor concern and I would say that I would never approach a woman unless there had been obvious eye contact and/or a smile. Also I think how you approach is key. If you approach like you are trying to pick them up, that can come across as creepy or sleazy. But if you treat them like a normal human being, like you would anyone having a random/funny interaction with then it is unlikely to be unwelcome.
As an example, when I was at the party earlier in the year, there was a girl that I noticed straight away but I though she was 21 and her sister was 18. I still went and chatted with them, but with no intention, I thought she was waaaaay too young for me. Talking later to a friend who knew her, I found out she was 34, so we chatted again. Because I'd approached with no expectation the first time, she was really open and friendly. We ended up having a great night together.
Me: 41 W:42 T: 14 M: 11 S: 6
"What happened happened, and couldn't have happened any other way...because it didn't"
