Yeh I'd like to do the real life thing for sure too. I'm just struggling to think of opportunities where I would meet women naturally. It seems to be a huge creep factor approaching women in gyms and grocery stores and I definitely don't want to give off that vibe. One of the things I need to do is put myself out there more - not just for dates but to talk and be conversational with random people. I've shut myself in a lot, and the pandemic didn't help.
As LH says, I don't think it's harmful to also do the OLD route. I am not in a hurry to get into a R and so I can explore both options when the time comes. I need to be in more social environments for sure though - expand my social contacts and be out there.
Thx bttrfly for your take. I suspect there's a whole lot of diversity out there on OLD - from players to hookups to people wanting R's. I'll have a better sense of it when I do put myself out there.
In other news, I'm feeling a lot better about all of the other things that triggered me. I am finding almost one job every day that I can apply for and I'm putting in the applications and being diligent about it. Being active about this is reducing my anxiety.
