[quote=BL42Have you had a relationship talk recently? I know those tend to be frown on around here but it seems like your situation is a bit different from many of the newcomer threads with a clear affair and running off with another person. You've had time apart, you've spent Holidays together for awhile (I'm assuming amicably), neither of you are rushing the D, if what you heard is right she's frustrated with the dating world and has given you hint of wanting to reconcile. I wonder if broaching the subject to see where she stands wouldn't be warranted in this case. I'm no expert though, who knows...others may disagree.[/quote]
I do disagree. As I said her actions are pretty clear, words won't change that. Rarely does broaching an R talk result in the clarity that a LBS seeks. It will likely result in more confusion.
Remember: When she wants to reconcile, you will know. When she doesn't, you will be confused.
Mach, do you know or are you confused? The answer to that gives you the answer you seek.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
I do disagree. As I said her actions are pretty clear, words won't change that. Rarely does broaching an R talk result in the clarity that a LBS seeks. It will likely result in more confusion.
I disagree. A simple question "are you in or are you out" gives you the answer you seek. Direct and to the point so there is no confusion.
[quote=BL42Have you had a relationship talk recently? I know those tend to be frown on around here but it seems like your situation is a bit different from many of the newcomer threads with a clear affair and running off with another person. You've had time apart, you've spent Holidays together for awhile (I'm assuming amicably), neither of you are rushing the D, if what you heard is right she's frustrated with the dating world and has given you hint of wanting to reconcile. I wonder if broaching the subject to see where she stands wouldn't be warranted in this case. I'm no expert though, who knows...others may disagree.
I do disagree. As I said her actions are pretty clear, words won't change that. Rarely does broaching an R talk result in the clarity that a LBS seeks. It will likely result in more confusion.
Remember: When she wants to reconcile, you will know. When she doesn't, you will be confused.
Mach, do you know or are you confused? The answer to that gives you the answer you seek.[/quote] When I have broached the topic in the past, a while ago. She says, she has thought about it, but is terrified I will go back to what I was before.. Cant convince her any different, its all on her to decide.. But that was a while ago. I havent broached the topic of R , and dont really want to.
Something weird happened on my reply. Here was my reply in post #2924806 at 402pm When I have broached the topic in the past, a while ago. She says, she has thought about it, but is terrified I will go back to what I was before.. Cant convince her any different, its all on her to decide.. But that was a while ago. I havent broached the topic of R , and dont really want to .
Mach, WASs words are meaningless. It amazes me when LBSs put stock into words of people that were willing to break the most sacred oath two people can make to one another.
So you are wise to gauge things based on her deeds. Her words are meaningless.
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M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
How's it going? Are you eating pasta and drinking wine in Italy?
Wine, Beer, and no carbonated water, lol. I dont know how they drink this bubbly water. nasty. Our hotel has a restaurant that delivers.. Very good food. Going to Rome this weekend, Vatican next weekend for the guided tour.. We hope.. Covid makes everything a little restrictive on tickets etc.. We shall see. I have already had two solid conversation with women here. Good times. Just flirting a little..
I have already had two solid conversation with women here. Good times. Just flirting a little..
Excellent. Good to flex your flirting muscles!
Originally Posted by Mach40
Going to Rome this weekend, Vatican next weekend for the guided tour.. We hope.. Covid makes everything a little restrictive on tickets etc.. We shall see.
Enjoy the rest of your trip! That is some great GAL. Hope you get to see the sites.
I highly recommend the "Scavi Tour" if possible. It's a private guided tour of the excavation underneath St Peter's Basilica which ends up in the church - very informative and full of history - but usually needs to be booked months in advance so may not be an option at this point.
Me:39 Ex-W:37 M:7 T: 9 S:6 D:3 BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20 OM1 affair ends: May '20 W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20 W files for D: Jul20 OM2 confirmed: 9/2020 Divorced: May '21
