It is interesting H answered your businesslike email so quickly.
Originally Posted by Eagle3
Guess he really wants this divorce now. He’s never been more sure. And this after almost 3 years in replay.
There is nothing particular to read into H’s response; just that he was feeling like it was the right thing to do in the moment.
Remember H isn’t rationally uncoupling his reinforcement like you are. Most everything he does is emotionally driven. That’s something to remember when negotiating or conversing with him. H will not behave or negotiate rationally. It requires a certain timing and finesse to find resolution with an emotional and irrational person. A bit of luck certainly helps too.
Originally Posted by Eagle3
I have a weird feeling about his words, didn’t expect this but is for the best I guess.
I’d have been surprised if you didn’t have a weird feeling about all this. Your response is perfectly normal and healthy.
Let those feeling subside and purposefully reinforce your rational view. I bet you will no longer “guess” about this being the best course of action. (By the way, “I guess” is from your emotional response rising and producing those self doubts.)
And, “is for the best” is a matter of perspective. It is what it is. “Best” will be what you make it.
We all play the hand we are dealt. Best, comes from how we play the hand.
Better not bitter.
Be the best you will be.
You’re doing just fine my friend.
D
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
